Hello Good Bye 2005

By Kathleen Evans

Queen Mother

The Scarlet la-TEA-das
aka HRH Her Majesty Queen Aura Azura

GOD SAVE THE QUEEN!!!!!

What a year 2005 was for countless people. Tragedy, destruction, sadness, poverty. Many friends and family members lost their jobs, health insurance, pensions. It was an awful year for so many, it's difficult to keep things in perspective.

The year began with my being gravely ill, struggling to find some medication or treatment that would help me.  Having a doctor tell you that perhaps it's time you put your house in order, is quite a shock. Especially when you're feeling as though you still have lots of living to do.

Everything stopped. I didn't want to get out of bed. I just wanted to sit and wait for the inevitable. It would have been so easy to do.

Instead when I started feeling better, I put things in to perspective and shrugged off the worry and decided, I wasn't ready to leave without a fight. And even if it was just one more day, I was going to live it to the fullest and enjoy myself, no matter what it took to do it.

Then my Godchild Dwight died of a heart attack, he was 33. I was numbed by grief, but his mom needed me. From somewhere I mustered the strength for forget about all my illness and worry, and focused in on helping her. His brother had died two years prior and their grandmother lay near death in a nursing home.

All I knew is that somehow, someway, my friend needed me to help her get through many hurdles.

Then on the heels of all that my husband became very sick and had to have part of his foot amputated due to an infection from diabetes.

The last month of year continued with sadness as my friend's mother passed away, and with our having to put our dog to sleep.

But all was not sadness. We did adopt an injured, retired greyhound from the Midwest Greyhound Adoption Association in Sugar Grove. (more on that another time).

Given the volume of sadness, I still spent many happy and joyous hours too. Just the sheer joy of living and enjoying true friendship with lovely friends has been a blessing to me.

I had to make some serious decisions last year. Many life altering decisions. I gave up my involvement with the labor movement. I stopped speaking to friends I'd know for most of my life because they were creating more and more grieve instead of helping me. It was a heart wrenching decision but one that was necessary to save my sanity.

I disbanded my original chapter and began a new one with some of the old but mostly new members, new friends. We are about to have our first get together, and had a wonderful and beautiful event in March.

Life goes on. And as it does it goes on way too fast.

Someone sent me this to me and after reading it I felt as though it was speaking to me personally about changes that needed to take place in my life.

I hope the New Year holds wonderful and blessing things for all of you and yours. Health, wealth and great happiness.

 

There are people who can walk away from you.

And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk  away from you: let them walk. I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you let them walk.  Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

The bible said that, they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]

People ! leave you because they are not joined to you.  And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.

Let them go.

And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead. You've got to know when it's dead.

You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you  something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm  faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me.  And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.

Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong  to you and was never intended for your life,